WHAT ABOUT TRYING SLOW SEX?
Sex. One of the most (maybe THE most?) important things in life. Indeed.
And one of the biggest taboos as well. Still today. But Paradoxically, sex is over present in press, social networks, ads, conversations. We are surrounded but are we really thinking about it, in a significant way?
Also, sex is very intimate. As everyone’s different, there isn’t one idea of slow sex, but as many as there are people out there.
This is not a subject I have been seeking information about and I am far from being a specialist. What follows is just my personal analysis, which I hope is forward-thinking and will help raise questions. And maybe change lives a little bit.
So, this whole Slow Soup project is all about slow life. Our inspiration. The slow life movement was born in Italy back in the middle of the 80s (yes it’s that old) after the opening of a Fast Food in the heart of Rome. In reaction of which they launched the "Slow Food movement". Then came the ‘Slow Travel’, ‘Slow Life’, ‘Slow Everything!’ —so why not ‘Slow Sex?'
Let's compare sex and food. Here’s what we could imagine: 'Fast sex' could be like a fast food menu. You can find it easily and quickly on tinder or youporn. It’ll be satisfying in the short term, but frustrating and addictive because not nutritious enough in the long term. Fast sex is not connected to reality. The movie « Shame » interpreted by Michael Fassbender gives a glimpse on that idea.
As slow food, slow sex is more intense, diverse and satisfying. It doesn’t necessarily require love, but it requires more attention. It’s a way to intensely enjoy every single moment. It’s about being more aware, awake, alert and responsive. It’s about taking the time to enjoy what’s going on, before, during and after intercourse.
Slow sex doesn’t necessarily mean actual slower movements. But a more intense connection between the partners. Probably with more communication, words, and also getting to know one's body, and the body of one's partner. It’s about taking the time to understand their likes (or dislikes) and desires. And to express (with words, gestures or whatever way) one’s desires.
Slow food gets prepared with the best ingredients, a lot of patience and involvement, and is being enjoyed at the fullest, in good company.
It’s the same for sex. We just want to put thoughts and a lot of attention into it.
But there is no pressure. And, remember: yielding to the temptation of a junk food binge from time to time, doesn’t mean you’ll stop enjoying wonderful long and tasty dinners.